Self-Help Sunday: You Must Forgive Your Boomer Parents

Andrew Anglin
June 17, 2018

This is a Special Father’s Day Self-Help Sunday for all my Millennial and Gen X bros with Baby Boomer parents.

A boomer, for those younger amongst you who do not exactly know the specifics, is a person who was a teenager in the period between the mid sixties and the mid seventies, and experienced the height of the post-war Jewish cultural revolutions in the West.

This is only a phenomenon in America and Western Europe. Eastern Europeans do not have this thing.

We talk a lot about boomers on this site. Because they are the first generation of people who gave up what was a hitherto unbroken chain of cultural transference. They did not pass the torch that was passed to them to their children. They did not teach us the values that their parents taught them.

They are defined by their selfishness, which is combined with a lack of self-awareness, which makes it almost cartoonish.

There was a comment on the Stormer forum about boomer parents – responding to an article I wrote about Boomers – which made an impression on me.

I shall post it in full.

As a child, my boomer sperm donor and my incubator, ie, “parents,” told me that I didn’t understand them because I was too young, that when I got older I’d be like them.

Well, I’m now older than they were when they said this nonsense to me, and contrary to their assertions, today I disagree with them more than I did as a “child.”

At the age of 11 I had already surpassed the maturity level of every single boomer in my life. Being mature though, I thought that my observations were hubris, though I did not know that word, and my parents’ assertions seemed very plausible; I was 11, how could I have outgrown them?

Thus I made the biggest mistake of my life.

I listened to these fucking monsters.

It’s taken me decades to undo the damage of listening to my parents and to get back to the level of maturity I had when I was 11, and to then build on that original foundation.

My parents lives have been a Groundhog Day for 60 years.

It’s all about enjoyment. It’s all about what THEY are entitled to for THEIR suffering. They worked so hard, _____ is their only joy in life. How dare anyone suggest that they not indulge. They EARNED it!!!

My parents are sneaking up on 70.

Their days are the same as when they were 30.

Lottery tickets, soda, cigarettes, 8 hours of TV a day, eating out, taking trips, and most disgustingly, trying to get laid.

They are walking caricatures of what they think young people should act like.

This is their empty, wasted existence.

And it would not necessarily be enough for me to absolutely despise them.
I despise them because of their utter lack of awareness and ownership of any single fault in their dead lives.

My parents have the fucking gall to complain about how THEY miss family get togethers and holidays.

Once my grandparents died, suddenly there were no more events. No more family dinners. No more reunions. No more big holiday dinners.

My parents have the breathtaking GALL to whine about missing grandma’s cooking.

Who the fuck are these assholes?!?!

My grandparents tried and tried and tried to hand off to my worthless shit-head parents the torch. My grandmother was singlehandedly making dinners for 20 people up into her late 60’s. She TRIED to teach her children, but they couldn’t be bothered.

When she realized the kind of man I was going to be, she took me under her wing and taught me what she could in the little time left to her.

To this day I’m the best cook I know thanks to the few lessons she taught me as a child.

I HATE you boomers so much that you should be able to feel it through time and space.

I utterly despise you fucking shits, not for your messes, not for your hedonism, not for your arrogance, or your congenital inability to admit fault, no.

I hate you all for the knowledge you refused to accept.

I fucking HATE you God damn mother fuckers for never bothering to learn how my grandmother made pies.

If that was the sole sin of you worthless fucking sacks of shit, it would be enough to guarantee a one way ticket to Hell.

You lost beauty.

It was handed to you, and you tossed it aside for a cigarette and a blowjob.

Boomers. You fuckers are going to burn in Hell.

So, we shall unpack it.

Firstly and most importantly, all of that I do understand. And all of us with boomer parents can relate. Many of us perhaps have not thought about it, and just assumed that this is the way parents behave with their children. But you can think this through – if parents had always behaved that way with their children, society would have collapsed.

That is not sustainable. If generations treated their children like this, society would collapse. It is now collapsing.

But here’s the thing.

Here’s the thing and it’s Father’s Day and it’s a good day for the thing.

I don’t like to get personal, but I have boomer parents. And I had this anger. Same anger.

It was firstly about that they did, objectively, put their own personal “happiness” before the wellbeing of their children. This is a very difficult thing to understand. And it is certainly something that makes a person angry when they realize it.

But, like the quoted post, the real anger comes from the fact that they are unwilling to admit that they did anything wrong.

But here’s the real thing: they are unable to understand that they did anything wrong. They are incapable of grasping the core concept that something they did to feel good could be wrong, because it is hardwired into them that life is a math equation of good feelings.

If you try to break this down, the boomer will simply become confused. There are some that you will see even in the comments sections of neon-nazi websites, getting confused.

That is the mind of the boomer.

Individuals and Society

You cannot stay mad.

You must forgive.

Because an individual lives in a society.

And every single baby boomer did the same thing. They all have this virus of the mind, where they are incapable of reflecting on themselves and their own behavior. Incapable of viewing themselves as having done something wrong.

And if they were all doing the same thing, that cannot be the fault of any single individual among them. They were caught in a wave, a movement of the entire society itself.

So being angry at an individual does not make sense. Well, being angry as a human response makes sense, but staying angry, when you are able to understand it on an intellectual level, does not.

It is a sad thing that our parents did not do what they were supposed to do. It is sad that they did not give us values, or religion, or culture.

It is sad that they gave us horrible advice or no direction at all.

It is sad that they let all of these brown people in, that they sent all the jobs overseas, that they accepted homosexuality, that they normalized casual sex.

It is sad that they are unable to understand what they did, and it is sad that they instead blame their children and claim that there is something wrong with us – that we are “entitled” (a buzzword they use which doesn’t have any clear meaning).

It is all very sad.

But this was a sociological phenomenon. It was not the result of decisions by individuals, and it certainly was not the fault of your individual parents.

It’s our job to deal with it, to fix it.

We should understand what the boomers did.

But the emotion should be pity rather than anger.

Imagine knowing so little, and being so incapable of analyzing yourself that you believe you know everything. Imagine what a miserable state that must be.

So, forgive mom.

Forgive dad.

Give dad a call today, and tell him thanks for what he did. Even if it wasn’t much. He is your father, and without him you wouldn’t even exist.

Life is the greatest gift.

Life is the gift of the fight.

The struggle.

To be is the most important thing of all.

It’s on Us

We must take full personal responsibility now for who and what we are. The anti-boomer memes, while useful in understanding ourselves and our position, shouldn’t be used to push away our own responsibility for our own lives and situation.

It is now on us.